Love & War: Finding the Marriage You’ve Dreamed Of

John and Stasi Eldredge

John and Stasi Eldredge offer an unusually honest Christian look at both the beauty and difficulty of marriage. Drawing openly from struggles in their own relationship, they argue that couples need to recognize that their spouse is not the enemy and learn to fight for one another rather than against one another. Marriage, in their view, is both a great love story and part of a larger spiritual battle. The book explores friendship, intimacy, disappointment, differences between spouses, spiritual warfare, and discovering a shared purpose for your marriage. What makes it especially engaging is the Eldredges’ willingness to tell their own story—including the difficult parts—while offering hope that a struggling marriage can become something deeper and more beautiful.